It’s Father’s Day. There is much to be talked about such as how important a present father is, how important a godly father is, how wonderful fatherhood is, the selfless nature of fatherhood, and the list goes on. But my heart is pressed upon the idea of a purpose (if not the main purpose) of fatherhood.
Paul writes a letter to the church in Ephesus and toward the end of the letter, Paul focuses on the relationships between different groups of people; namely wives, husbands, children, fathers, mothers, masters, and servants (Ephesians 5:21-6:9). He told Fathers, “do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord”. Contrary to angering their children, fathers are to raise their children teaching them the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
Interestingly, “discipline” comes from “παιδεία” which can be translated as teaching or instruction. Fathers, teach your kids the wisdom of God, which comes from the Scriptures. This word is translated in 2 Timothy 3:16 as “training”, particularly in righteousness. Another form of the word (παιδευτής) is properly translated as teacher or instructor. Fathers, you ARE your child’s most important and prominent teacher in life.
“Instruction” comes from “νουθεσία” which points more toward correction. BDAG defines it as “counsel about avoidance or cessation of an improper course of conduct”. We see this word being used in Titus 3:10 and translated as “warnings.” Fathers, we are to counsel our children toward right action which is defined by the Lord.
Last night, I had to discipline my youngest child for an act of disobedience. As the disciplinary action was on its way, my child said “I wish God had never made me,” later to find out her reasoning, “because I’ve been bad.” Now, the statement is likely something my four-year-old heard on a tv, but either way, the statement was heart breaking to this father. The discipline was finished and then I had an opportunity for instruction. With great love and cuddles, we had the opportunity to talk about how we deal with guilt and shame; how her value to God and to me is immeasurable; she is a blessing to me and her mother; discipline is an act of love and correction. While disciplining, I had an opportunity to also instruct. Prayerfully, the very hard evening with my child will result in her increased confidence in Christ and understanding of righteousness.
Fatherhood is not always easy, or without pain. But fathers, you have a responsibility and a duty – remain faithful. Glorify God. Raise those kiddos in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. Make the commitment today to Biblically “man up” and fulfill the responsibility you’ve been blessed with.
